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2/17/2010 4:15:51 PM
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I am a 44 years old asian woman. I am a beautiful, intelligent, practicising Muslim, smart and writing my PhD thesis now. I have been online for a number of years but I have not met my match. Majority of the so called muslim men are not committed or find it difficult to chat or write an email. Majority of online men are scams and look for vulnerable women to cheat or get money out of them. Fortunately I have a positive outlook so I am not bitter but it leads me to be cautious. The last man that I met online is a British who is a high risk child offender. What could be worse. On other occassions men pretend to be construction workers who dissapear into Africa and then meet accidents. Then you get a mail saying its a serious accident and need money. I have heard so many couples who have found happiness online but that happiness has eluded me so far. I wish that someday Allah will grant me happiness.
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2/17/2010 6:17:05 PM
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I'm sorry for the bad experience you had through a muslim singles website.I believe the mentality or the culture of muslim men don't allow them to believe in the seriousness of such websites.wishyou good luck in your search
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2/17/2010 7:10:10 PM
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Maybe than those Muslim unbelievers should stop playing games or misleading. If they dont believe in seriousness of meeting online than maybe these type of men should not be on such websites right? Wish you luck too.
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3/8/2010 5:57:11 AM
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Salamualaikum, iam actually one of those who don't really think it's gonna work.most of members in different sites haven't visited them for months or maybe years.i think if a member doesn't make a visit every severa weeks, his/her file ould be automatically deleted.
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4/7/2010 11:56:36 PM
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yazzy
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peace and blessing be upon u sisters and brothers:
very good points! also, keep in mind that in order for these sites to work we as participants must participate! the sucess or failure of this site is in our hands, plain and simple. Don't just talk about it be about it.
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6/16/2010 12:20:01 PM
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As salaam alaikum.
Online doesn't work because it is not the way of islam. The proper way of marriage is the traditional way. Meeting online is vunerable to path of iblis. There is no solid foundation of righteousness. We set ourselves up to become victims of infidelity in the name of Allah.
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9/18/2012 12:33:42 PM
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Some1 just above me relates online partner finding to be devils pathway, lolz. I think devil created Internet lolz. Dear all I think because ppl dont really put their effort into getting the right person n yes scams put them down further more. Let's c what happens. Btw that man disappearing in Africa n money stuff was so funny, even I got couple of nurses disappearing in Africa too. Lolz
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1/13/2013 7:19:28 AM
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Salaam sister!
I think men are scared of what you have committed already, your chase for the ultimate graduate degree PhD.
High school and undergraduate degree should be enough on average for a man to be comfortable to marry an educated woman. But unless you have equal years of religious studies under your belt, then there would be great number of Muslim men knocking your door for love connection.
Your last statement should suffice a prayer to your Lord for your efforts for finding that illusive man that would give you the love and attention you deserve after been in class patiently for so many years.
Hope your other life in terms of wanting to populate the earth (the wish of our Prophet Mohamed upon us) would be like the experience of Prophet Zakariya.
I encourage you and everyone else here 100%. We will all find the goodness in this world. The next, it really takes pious deeds til the end.
Good luck.
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1/31/2013 8:57:18 AM
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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, I am sorry that you have not found a brother to marry, but the question is what are you looking for? See most of the time we set a goal in mind most sisters want just the brother for themselves they do not wish to 'share' sometimes I ask myself why would a muslim woman not accept to marry if she finds a great brother who will love her and respect her? No she prefers a liar who would play with her sometimes I believe is the mentality of sisters I am sure there are bad muslim men who do what you say but what happens when there are good brothers nobody wants them because they don't fall in the romantic category. That is the biggest problem all of you women have this delusional dream that you meet a guy and is love at first sight blah blah blah but do you say hmmm I need a brother who pracitices islam and who will encourage me and make a better muslimah? The other thing is money many of you sisters ask for a lot you want a house, a car and all the most expensive things as a mahr very few sisters say no I should think about his means and lower the mahr. I was marry for over 10 years unfortunately my marriage didn't work I will not go into the details as to why all I ask Allah is to guide my exwife and save her from herself and to guide all of us and to save us all from the fire and may Allah grant you all husbands and wives that are good for your din, your life and the end amin
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2/9/2013 8:59:42 AM
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These site are used in a way that exceed Islamic limits. Sister create a profile without there family knowledge. What excuss dose someone have to not allow family and friends to be involved in the search process. Sister should have their brother father wali come to these site. Men should be contacting men. Unfortunately those from the east have become westernized and abandoned tradition and allow emotion to creep into the search for a mate. Next come the Love Marriages then divorce. People need to get back to there roots and stay there. What worked in the past will work now- your deen.
For the reverts of the west we do not have a dynamic support system like friends and family to look for a suitable mate for us. Many of us are still stuck in our independent life style.
I am here because I have no support system and a minor health issue that millions have but are embarrassed to discussed (hsv2) alhamdulillah for this test. And you that think I should not mention this take it as a warning people on all these sites have it knowingly and unknowingly.
I advise all sisters to get there family involved if you use sites. Sister your contact details should be of your non marriageable family member on your father side.
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2/19/2013 9:07:04 AM
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tfb62 wrote:
I'm sorry for the bad experience you had through a muslim singles website.I believe the mentality or the culture of muslim men don't allow them to believe in the seriousness of such websites.wishyou good luck in your search
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3/14/2013 8:15:13 AM
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hsv437737 wrote:
These site are used in a way that exceed Islamic limits. Sister create a profile without there family knowledge. What excuss dose someone have to not allow family and friends to be involved in the search process. Sister should have their brother father wali come to these site. Men should be contacting men. Unfortunately those from the east have become westernized and abandoned tradition and allow emotion to creep into the search for a mate. Next come the Love Marriages then divorce. People need to get back to there roots and stay there. What worked in the past will work now- your deen.
For the reverts of the west we do not have a dynamic support system like friends and family to look for a suitable mate for us. Many of us are still stuck in our independent life style.
I am here because I have no support system and a minor health issue that millions have but are embarrassed to discussed (hsv2) alhamdulillah for this test. And you that think I should not mention this take it as a warning people on all these sites have it knowingly and unknowingly.
I advise all sisters to get there family involved if you use sites. Sister your contact details should be of your non marriageable family member on your father side.
There was once a time that a mushrik reverted and went to Islam against the will of her people. Muhammad s.a.w. allowed this. It was about a treaty with some of the Quraish I think.
I also don't see any physical contact. There is however the thing that woman gets married without asking the parent for permission, which is bad. That is if the parents are Islamic. Quran states that a woman shouldn't be forced, but also states that if you can get married, get married.
Either way, it's better to get married through here without physical contact, than going disco.
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6/24/2013 3:59:18 AM
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Omarrashid
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I have joined many marriage site’s and had no luck at all, I have spoken to many individuals who just want to use you and play games also they have other ulterior motive, the fact is I have been paying so much money for those nasty experiences.
Once you have created a profile which they say is free , you get so many messages but you’re are unable to read them until you become a paid member (there goes the free site) some time I wonder if people from these site have created false profile and are sending you these messages.
The worst thing is for young women who are on this site without their parent’s knowledge, they should involve their parents as hsv47737 wrote earlier and if they intended on meeting someone from these marriage site they should have a family member accompany them.
I don’t pay for these site now, I create a profile that similar to my SKYPE name if a name is taken I just add numbers to the end of it also I leave my Skype name searchable, some people are cleaver and switched on will search SKYPE hence no point in paying.
I have spoken to many people via Skype some have not been compatible also I have not been compatible but its free and if someone is serious they will make the effort to search and if you get someone who is annoying you can remove them or block them.. At least that takes care of the non-serious individuals and scammers also I am not paying.
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6/25/2013 7:25:31 AM
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Assalamu alaykum sister. I am sorry you had such an experience. I would NOT blame the sites so much, I believe these sites are a reflection of society. Society, muslims nowadays, are far from the straight path and integrity doesn mean much to them this is why innocent sisters/brothers suffer. Yet we must learn or try our best to not give aspects about our life that might against us. The sight is for getting to know eachotherś aspirations a little, for making the introductory step. What comes after that is not to blame on the site but on how much confidence we choose to give the person. Itś not easy,May God guide us all and keep away scammers from and scameresses.
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7/10/2013 4:12:40 PM
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A salam to all users
First RAMADAN MUBARIK,
how r u all i hope that Inshallah every one will be good my name is zartaj and i am from pakistan my father was killed by my own uncles for money and property and my moom one of the great mother in the world is lecturer in college and now i come here to london so when i talk to someone here in london with my other muslim girls and family so they said to me that give us £5000 or £6000 or £7000 etc so i am confuse that is this write in QURAN OR ANY AHADIS which is said by my ALLAH OR MY NABI S.A.W . i am very hurted when i listen this thing the main thing is that which many peoples know that when these families take money so then when the boy take documents then he leave the girls did you why coz the boy said that its not marraige its a money deal which we done on marraige date thats why alot of girls are sufffering fron this issus so i request to all peoples that just trust on GOD and ALLAH BEST KNOW THEN US an money is nothing when in life has no happines no kids no husbend so then what can you do for money just nothing so sprit love careing loyality and happines and just do as husbend said i mean rite work do for husbend not wrong work which is haram. JAZAKALLAH
so now i am telling that i am searching a life patner which she have just few qualities simple loyal caring and 5 time pray nemaz and read Quran my name is zartaj and if any one who is intrsted so email me my email is zartaj809@yahoo.com
jazakallah
ALLAH HELP ALL MUSLIMA
ameen
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7/10/2013 4:14:02 PM
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lina06 wrote:
Assalamu alaykum sister. I am sorry you had such an experience. I would NOT blame the sites so much, I believe these sites are a reflection of society. Society, muslims nowadays, are far from the straight path and integrity doesn mean much to them this is why innocent sisters/brothers suffer. Yet we must learn or try our best to not give aspects about our life that might against us. The sight is for getting to know eachotherś aspirations a little, for making the introductory step. What comes after that is not to blame on the site but on how much confidence we choose to give the person. Itś not easy,May God guide us all and keep away scammers from and scameresses.
ameen thanks lina and read my msg as welll
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7/29/2013 3:52:06 PM
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salaam
I agree when people say the internet sites are not bad its the reflection of society. just as you would meet a good or bad person in real life so you will meet a good or bad person online. whereas previously you would marry within your vicinity now you have the whole world to choose from! as long as the limits of islam are adhered to I don't see a problem with using online dating sites - before the internet was invented people found a marriage partner by themselves or asked others to help - now your just using technology to fulfil your objective. inshallah allah help us to find who we are looking for. do the action and trust the result will be in Allah's hands.
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10/26/2013 8:37:58 PM
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I want a muslim religus life partner.my email.fazalazeemi@yahoo.com
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11/23/2013 4:08:08 PM
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Salam,
Add me on facebook if you like my pics. find me by my email add: ijlal@pakistanangler.com. We can then discuss matters. When you send friend request, do send me a message also telling me you are adding me because you saw this on this forum.
Thanks.
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11/29/2013 12:18:35 PM
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as salam alaikum. i find out on various matrimonial sites that both males and females create profiles for fun only. they do not reply when someone show interest in them. it is just wastage of time and difficulty for those who are actually searching life partners. pls guys, stop doing this
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