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3/3/2008 6:11:55 AM
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administrator
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Salam Alaikum Sisters,
This is the first thread in this section so I just wanted to start if off welcoming you to the Sisters part of the forums on MMS! Also, to let you know that if ever you have a concern about your search for a spouse that you are welcome to post it here. Don't be shy, there are many sisters out there like you who are looking for their other half and it is a journey to say the least. Keep in mind that all of you sisters are in this together and I am here to help any way I can with any advice I can give.
So, the sisters thread can basically be for anything us sisters want to talk about as long as we keep it Halal. It is our area to get to know each other, to support each other and to make some friends, Inshallah.
Wa Salam,
Sister Heather
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3/4/2008 7:19:24 AM
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brightuk16
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Salaam Sister Heather.
I've just visited your site after awhile and noticed you have a forum going. I am very grateful for this as this will give us all the opportunity to discuss the problems we face both in our day to day lives and in searching for our ideal partner. There are so many sites out there and yet many muslim brothers and sisters are not finding any joy in finding a partner. I have been searching for the past 5 1/2 years and have come across many individuals who are on this site for "a bit of fun", so they say. How can we overcome this problem, as it is difficult in distinguishing those who are genuine and those who are not.
I don't know of any relatives or members within our community whom I would consider suitable, which is why the whole idea of a search engine appealed to me, but since registration all i have come across is alot of disappointment.
I guess we need to have faith In Allah (swt) and seek his guidance as this life is a test and He will test us in whatever way He wishes.
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3/7/2008 2:21:41 PM
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Walekum Salam Sister,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time finding a spouse. It seems to be so easy for some sisters while for others it can be very difficult, not sure why exactly, but I guess it is all in what Allah wills...
As for those who are not serious on my site then please by all means send me an email at support@meetmuslimsingles.com and tell me their usernames with a copy of the email they sent you as evidence. This site is meant for those seeking marriage only, not for games or fun. Compared to other Muslim matrimonial sites I would say this is one of the best out there at keeping down on this type of stuff but it does happen on all sites and when it happens on mine it is of great concern to me. I really look down at this stuff as well as those men who are out there just trying to get a visa to get out of their country. So, please, please, please email me that list of whoever is out there for games and I will make sure to investigate and give them the boot from the site.
The best approach to make this a good site and to help narrow the search down to the good brothers is for the sisters to ban together and be strong on this, report those who are not serious and have no intention for marriage as they don't belong on MeetMuslimSingles.com. Of course I need evidence as I can't just judge a brother with no proof in front of me as it is not fare to the brothers nor would it be fare to the sisters if a brother where to send in a complaint with no proof... so I do need some time of proof either an email that was sent on the MMS site or off the site that shoes his email address on it.
Shukran Jazelan sister for letting me know of this problem and I hope you will help me in taking care of it.
Sister Heather
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3/9/2008 8:09:14 AM
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Umzaida
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Walaikum asalam,
I am entirely grateful to know that we have a forum here at the site. I have been a member for some time now and it has been trial and error, however I have learned something new every time masha'allah.
As for the sisters that has had many disappointments, please sisters it takes time. Allah knows best and when it is time Allah Ta'aala will guide you and the brother towards one another, insha'allah. Make dua and witr...only Allah knows best
Jazak allah
administrator wrote:
Salam Alaikum Sisters,
This is the first thread in this section so I just wanted to start if off welcoming you to the Sisters part of the forums on MMS! Also, to let you know that if ever you have a concern about your search for a spouse that you are welcome to post it here. Don't be shy, there are many sisters out there like you who are looking for their other half and it is a journey to say the least. Keep in mind that all of you sisters are in this together and I am here to help any way I can with any advice I can give.
So, the sisters thread can basically be for anything us sisters want to talk about as long as we keep it Halal. It is our area to get to know each other, to support each other and to make some friends, Inshallah.
Wa Salam,
Sister Heather
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3/9/2008 5:19:40 PM
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administrator
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Walekum Salam Sister,
Yes, definitely, dua is extremely important and should be made daily when searching for a spouse.
I like how you put trial and error as it is a learning process. I remember back to before I met my husband and had interviewed a few brothers, each brother I interviewed I learned more and more about what I did not want and it guided me towards what I did want in a husband, Alhumduallah leading me to a wonderful husband.
It is very important to have faith in Allah and be patient or as my mom always says when I get impatient "good things come to those who wait", and she was right when it came to my hubby. So, I know it is not easy at all, lonely actually for many sisters but try to comfort yourselves in knowing that Allah is closer to you then your jugular vain in your neck, that is just how close he is so that you are never alone and in time Allah will bring the right brother your way.
Each day new brothers join the site so if Mr. Right is not on MMS today maybe Allah will bring him here tomorrow or the next day or the day after or it might be longer, but just have faith and don't give up.
Peace,
Sister Heather
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3/10/2008 7:15:14 AM
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brightuk16
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Salaam Sisters,
Firstly I would like to thank you sister Heather and sister Umzaida for your kind words. Its does sometimes gets stressful especially when your met with disappointment but I am ecstatic that you've got this forum going, as this will allow us sisters to communicate and share our joys and sorrows in our search. It lightens our heart and allows us to realise that we are not alone and that there are many brothers and sisters.
I wish MMS all the success and am looking forward to further interesting conversations, debates on this site.
Allah Hafiz
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3/22/2008 7:45:16 AM
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hasna
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Salam Alaikum, I have viewed the forum issues and it is awesome. Keep up the good works and may Allah bless you for your help for all of us. I too am sad, I have had my sister in laws profile up here since MMS started. Adn I see so many good sisters int heir own country, yet the men do not seem interested to search them out. Hasna is a beautiful sister and yet these men do not seem to want someone from their own country...preferring it would seem the American reverts...this is so sad to me...In morocco many are unmarried, and their expectations are too high...but is not wrong to want a man that is working and can support the sister...therefore keep looking sisters until the man you find can answer all your questions honestly, with proof of who they are, and never forget, if in question get a man to contact him from your family or the imam or someone that can be your walli. after all it does take a man to know a man, unfortunately.
Hasna's sister in law
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5/21/2008 6:24:07 PM
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Assalamualaikum Sisters in Islam,
I've just joined this site after so many unsuccessful attempts at other Muslim matrimonial sites. My heart has been broken so many times that I'm afraid I will become too hard. To say I've given up hope at finding Mr Right is not right in Islam. But at the same time, I too wonder why it's so hard to find a good Muslim man. Perhaps, at my age I'm 47, the good men have already been snatched away (he he he). Anyway, I'm glad there's this site meant for Sisters only. And I hope it will stay that way. There are too many horror stories about online matches but for Muslimahs like me who don't have uncles, brothers, etc to help me find a good spouse, I have to be proactive in my search. Unfortunately, not many men appreciate a sister who has faith and who guards her honor well.
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7/11/2008 7:48:37 PM
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sethunya
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Assalaamu Alaikum.
I have to say that reading the others sisters post has gotten me a little pessimistic. I guess meeting some1 compatible is all a matter of chance, i've meet several people from this site and its all the same old same old. The routine starts they are eager to get to know you better, bla bla bla drama and it ends with me back on this site waiting for an email that i hope might be from some1 remotely sufficient. To say i've given up hope is and understatement. I just wait for the time to past to say "okay another waste of my time".
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7/17/2008 10:02:38 PM
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Assalamualaikum to all my sisters,
Yes, it's depressing when you're faced with one disappointment after another. Each time you communicate with a potential suitor and you think Yes, we're compatible. This might lead to something and before you know what went wrong, he just up and disappeared into thin air. Worst if he had proposed marriage! This happened to me several times. Sometimes I wonder if it's just a kind of thrill for them playing with women's heart. And then there are those who don't bother to read a sister's profile. I've received quite a number of email from young boys who are more than 20 years my junior. Although I believe that love knows no boundaries, I am sceptical about young boys who deliberately write to a very much older woman. Having said that, I would love to write to other single women, just to share our life's story, exchange views etc.
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12/29/2008 8:21:52 AM
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brightuk16 wrote:
Salaam Sister Heather.
I've just visited your site after awhile and noticed you have a forum going. I am very grateful for this as this will give us all the opportunity to discuss the problems we face both in our day to day lives and in searching for our ideal partner. There are so many sites out there and yet many muslim brothers and sisters are not finding any joy in finding a partner. I have been searching for the past 5 1/2 years and have come across many individuals who are on this site for "a bit of fun", so they say. How can we overcome this problem, as it is difficult in distinguishing those who are genuine and those who are not.
I don't know of any relatives or members within our community whom I would consider suitable, which is why the whole idea of a search engine appealed to me, but since registration all i have come across is alot of disappointment.
I guess we need to have faith In Allah (swt) and seek his guidance as this life is a test and He will test us in whatever way He wishes.
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12/29/2008 8:26:17 AM
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Assa lamalaikum sisters,
I agree with the other sister that men are mostly in for games or papers to get legal status. I have been searching for 3 years now and all they want is money, papers or just fun. Our muslim men are the worse as I have tried non muslim sites too. Non muslim men are better in being open and respectful but unfortunately we cannot marry them.
I have almost given up on the search as I do not respond with my heart if I get an email.
Wassalam
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8/11/2012 4:52:34 PM
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nancyhaddad
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I agree wit wat the last sister posted. Ive met terrible men on here. But in this sacred month of ramadan one if them jyst flipped my emotions. For the first time I felt like I wana hurt a human. One brother his profile name is adiab cursed my honor and mother in the month of ramadan. And even talked sarcastic about ALLAH!!! He made me just wana delete my profile. The only thing I regret is that I didnt keep his emails so that I can send them 2 admin so he can be banned. They hurt me so much I deleted them. I list trust in contacting anyone. this is a shame.
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8/11/2012 4:52:45 PM
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nancyhaddad
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I agree wit wat the last sister posted. Ive met terrible men on here. But in this sacred month of ramadan one if them jyst flipped my emotions. For the first time I felt like I wana hurt a human. One brother his profile name is adiab cursed my honor and mother in the month of ramadan. And even talked sarcastic about ALLAH!!! He made me just wana delete my profile. The only thing I regret is that I didnt keep his emails so that I can send them 2 admin so he can be banned. They hurt me so much I deleted them. I list trust in contacting anyone. this is a shame.
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12/6/2013 7:19:45 PM
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cenderawasih83
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Assalamualaikum
a forum for sisters here Masha Allah it is a good work. As muslim we are relatives to support each others with kind words. Even Allah not fate us to meet husband here Allah will let us have supportive sisters here. Sisters, I always go to mosque alone. In my country it is safe for the journey and muslimah has it special place in mosque with different entrance door to avoid fitnah. I keep myself busy with works and social services that make i feel blessed all the time even i dont have husband. Just one day,one aunty reminded me that I must find a way to seek marriage. If i tried and zikir, solat it is not working then it is alright for me to answer in front of my Creator at the Day of Judgement about why i still single till I died. For sharing knowledge let istiqamah with Prophet Musa Alaihi Salam dua in Surah Al Qasas;24) Rabbi Inni Lima Anzalta Ilayya Min Khoirin Faqeer. May Allah put my sisters here and me in Jannah for being patience.. Do not surrender if Allah decided no one in this world Allah sure grant the best for us in hereafter..
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12/14/2013 3:50:34 PM
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Ariama
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Finding a spouse is the hardest thing ever, i see people around me who make it seem so easy, getting married 3/4 times, ave always been shy thats been a downfall for me, i never know what to say, most brothers just want a girlfriend with a possibility of being their wife. Its difficult especially being the only one who is isn't married. Most of the family members my age have 2,three kids already,some are on their 4th marriage and i cant get passed the first stage..haha. But am patient and i will put all my trust in Allah, we are all tested in different ways, maybe this is a test of my patience and faith. May Allah make it easy for us, may he give us sabr, and grant us spouses from among the best of muslims..Ameen
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12/31/2013 7:22:00 AM
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Asalamu alaykum waramotullahi wabarakatu.
I am new on this site and I am so happy to see a blog dedicated for muslim sisters only. I have been surfing the internet for a while now but I haven't met the right one. I don't really have muslim sisters as friend in real life but I look forward to meeting good sisters and keeping them as friends while searching for the right one. May Almighty Allah make it easy for us. Thanks.
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1/25/2014 8:06:11 PM
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assalamu'alaykum to all sisters here. I am a new joiner here and really glad that i can meet good muslim sisters here as well and also have a forum to share about woman's problem :-)
I am from indonesia and because i am working and studying as well, it is a bit difficult for me to find a real practice sisters around my area and also because i am a single parent.
salam.
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8/18/2014 8:15:28 AM
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bellahabiban
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well it seems the thread posts are very old.
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2/27/2016 8:24:35 AM
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nancy2809
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hello
assalamu'alaykum, the post is very nice.
thanks for the nice thought
thanks & regards
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