AmirKhan87
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If you are a Male Muslim and you are reading this article, in no shape or form am I trying to offend you. I have been asked by fellow Muslim Sisters to provide some advice to the Brothers that is relevant specifically for them. This is not aimed at all Muslim men. As you continue to read this, I will share with you the difference between ‘what works’ and ‘what doesn’t.’ I will highlight how different men were perceived by the Muslim Women at a recent professional Muslims networking event that I attended.
Don’t Talk About Work
I have asked the following question countless times to Muslim Women: ‘What ONE thing should a guy NOT DO when he meets a girl for the first time?’
In 9 out of 10 times the answer has been, ‘talk about work.’
But why is talking about work not attractive or stimulating to women given that we spend at least one third of our day at work? If you cannot think of a reason, try reading over the question again…..
If for example you attended an Event where you knew there would be Single Muslim Sisters, who have just come back from a long days work at the office, where they have been dealing with people, rushing to meet deadlines, attended various meetings etc. the last thing they want to be reminded of is WORK! Unless you have an interesting job that everyone can relate to, I recommend you don’t talk about what you do. Now this doesn’t mean, don’t tell them what you do for a living, but it does mean, don’t make it the only topic of conversation.
At this recent event, I will refer to the gentleman as X. Now X is a decent looking guy who speaks and dresses well. However, he has this tendency to come across as quite intense and will only talk about work. Having noticed this, I subtly suggested that he tries to avoid the topic of work. His response was that he believed women liked it when a man talks about what he does for a living.
What X failed to acknowledge was that, he has more to him than work. Women are most interested in finding out what he is about, and how he spends his time outside of work.
So what should X do?
Every Muslim woman is different in what they like to talk about. Some like talking about Islam, whilst others enjoy sharing experiences of travelling or talking about their friends and family. But how can you find out what they’re interested in?
It’s fairly simple, pose the following question ‘What do you enjoy doing outside of work?’ and allow the conversation to flow from there.
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