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5/16/2008 4:52:19 PM
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poetry
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Assalamu alaykium! why is it so hard? It's hard because everyone is looking for someone who is perfect. Also if you are from a different ethnic group and you are attracted to someone who is not from the same ethnic group your people are then that's a problem. We must remember that Islam doesn't tolerate racism, or nationalism. We as muslims have a long way to go! Assalamu Alaykium!
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6/1/2008 4:24:42 PM
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sam1975
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poetry wrote:
Assalamu alaykium! why is it so hard? It's hard because everyone is looking for someone who is perfect. Also if you are from a different ethnic group and you are attracted to someone who is not from the same ethnic group your people are then that's a problem. We must remember that Islam doesn't tolerate racism, or nationalism. We as muslims have a long way to go! Assalamu Alaykium!
I agree that it's extremelydifficult to find a marriage partner but I disagree that it's due to the fact that we're looking for someone perfect. Afterall, perfection is relative and means different things to different people. We are not perfect as individuals so how can we possibily strive for it in others? On the contrary, what we are looking for is someone we can engage with, who can understand, accept, respect and value us for who we are and vice versa. It transcends physical beauty, level of education, qualifications and material possessions, it is about our connection with that individual on a spritiual and psychological level that determines the strengh of the relationship.
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6/23/2008 3:26:28 AM
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seldomeflower
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salamalikoum, i do share the idea that says, fate is doing it for us, means relatively, there nothing difficult or easy it is a question of destiny, i can assure you that in my country marriage is not so difficult, what is indeed is to find a person who is moderate as God said it in this case we have the difficulty to find the suitable person. so keep faith telling yourself that God tests your patience, so hope you are going to get the pay off, soon.
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6/27/2008 7:10:02 AM
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aamee
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I think this issue is more related to cultural practices than race or national origin. It is really hard for me to understand that why Muslims ignore the importance of the culture. Further more, most people in this world do not differentiate between the religion and culture. What makes me mad is that converted Muslims are taught to adapt Mideastern culture with Islam too. Islam preaches us to respect other cultures too. According to the Quran, Islam (Deen:as a system of life) has no favorite culture.
Somehow we all like to find someone from our own culture and it is quite natural. but when we start looking out of our own culture then partner-search becomes really complicated. We should not ignore the ground realities while searching for life-partner. Since we live in the North America, which is the home of multiple cultures. We should figure out how flexible and comfortable we are when it comes to living with someone who is not from our culture.
edited by aamee on 6/27/2008
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8/17/2009 10:31:43 AM
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pink
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Asalam Allakum Brothers & Sisters, Now a days nikah become soo hard just because our society is become materilistic , when nikah was easy then Zina was rarely happen, now zina become easy and nikah become hard, you should follow the Islam then we don't have any problem in life, examples of Sahaba and Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W) is in front of us.. May Allah give us Tofeek to follow all instructions of Islam.
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9/17/2009 1:07:21 PM
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They only reason its difficult to find a partner is because, we have set criteria of who we want as our partner which is so detailed that no one will ever fit in it. Do not go for looks as looks tend to deteriorate, Do not go for income as income tends to fluctuate, Do not go for ethnicity as all Muslims are one. Go for the person who fears Allah and he'll keep you happy Inshallah. If you liked this message. Make dua for me.
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